I’ve been thinking now for a long time about the reason why we’re all here. Surely it’s not to live in pain and fear? There’s too many people trying to get as much as they can, taking and stealing from their fellow man. So why not sit down, have a drink and let’s try to understand what we’re doing here my dear reader.
I try not to think of people in terms of black or white as that isn’t how the world works, it’s all shades of grey. Skin colour, gender, sexual preferences, who we love, who we let go, all shades of grey.
Take for an example a friend of mine, he was a good friend at school, we hung out and did things after school and before school. At dinner time and breaks we would disappear out of sight of the school and roll up then smoke a couple of joints. Last I heard he was getting himself straight, he’d got a good job, lovely partner and he was happy. I was pleased for him and remembered the good times we had at school. I don’t know if it is him or not but I just read an obituary about someone with the same name and approximately my age who died suddenly following a heart attack.
We are all mortal, sooner or later we are all going to die. I only have one regret in my life and that is that I didn’t travel when I left school but I didn’t have the guts to go to the other side of the planet on my own. My friend and I had talked about going to work in Australia for a couple of years after we left school, then other people were going to come with us, we even knew where there was work we could get and, although the work was hard it was well paid. We kept this talk going for about 3 years and more and more people were going to come with us both. Then one by one they dropped out until it was only my friend and I who were left when he told me he had got a girl pregnant and was going to do the right thing and get married to her.
That left me, alone, with the dream of going to another country to work for a couple of years and earn a fortune doing it. I started thinking about the distance I would be away from family and friends. I thought about not knowing anyone over there. I thought about getting home sick and wanting to travel home. In the end I decided not to go. I regretted that ever since. My friend’s marriage fell apart 2 years after his son was born. He moved away to Edinburgh and that was the last place I saw him, he moved there just after I did.
Would we have lasted 2 years in the middle of nowhere where everything was trying to kill us? Who knows, we never got there. Anyway the thing I’m trying to say is, we rarely regret things we do. Usually it’s things we don’t do. I’m determined that I’m going to live the remainder of my life doing things that I want to do. I want to live and have fun, sod the pain I can up the painkillers and try to live in the moment.
Life is too short and we all need to seize the day and remember that every day could be your last so live it to the full, grab the bull by the horns and get out there, meet people and, if you can, give them a helping hand. If you can’t help them at least try to lighten their load by sharing a smile with them. Smiling makes others feel positive and it makes us feel good.
On a different note I heard about a man in Nashville who went into a waffle shop and started shooting when a young man stood up and disarmed him, no thought for his own safety he just didn’t want anyone dying while he could do something to stop it. People are recognising this man as a hero, and he is, but we can all do this. Someone with a gun expects people to run away from him (or her). Take them by surprise and run at them and they will panic. You may get shot but isn’t it better to be shot while trying to protect others? This man has a lot of love in his life and his heart, we should learn from him but only if we think we can make a difference. In my case it would be to distract him and make him focus on me to give others a chance to get out.
If we see someone hurting another, trying to kill others, don’t we owe it to ourselves to try and protect them from harm? If enough people stand up and shout Enough! Then we surely can turn the hatred that is so rife these days into something resembling love for each other and help our fellow human beings to feel safe anywhere on this planet.
The music today is from one of the two heroes of mine who are no longer with us yet both wished me a happy birthday on 27/04/2018 when I turned 64 (an age celebrated by the other 2 of the group remembered in this song).