It kind of hit me today…
by davebarclay1954
My world came crashing down around me 31 years ago last July when my mum died. 16 years ago I met my current wife’s mother who was every bit as endearing as my mum had been. She’d been fighting cancer for years when I first met her and also had type 2 diabetes. She never complained and I used to call round and sit with her for hours on my days off work. Lovely woman who had some fantastic memories of her time as a young girl living through WWII, and her time in the army after hostilities ended.
3 years ago today she died after her cancer had returned and spread through her bones into her entire body. Having lost my own mum I was able to offer support and comfort to my wife at this time and through the years since. It was hard for me as well, having lost my mum and then finding another who was just as kind only to lose her so soon after. Still my life has been so blessed having both of these women in it.
This is offered as hope to all those who have recently lost a parent, or have a terminally ill parent. Don’t beat yourself up because death is a part of life. If you are still around to grieve that is how it’s supposed to be. No parent should outlive their children, but it happens especially during war. Look back on all the times you spent together, whether long or short, and remember with love.
If you can remember more good times than bad then that helps the healing process, but in time the bad times fade and don’t feel as bad as they did. As long as you have good times to look back on you can remember fondly, smile and relive those good times to keep your parent alive in your mind.
Life goes on and memories fade but remember with love and enjoy again all the good times you had.
Beautiful post and beautiful words.
Thank you, you’re too kind
I’m sorry to hear you both have lost your mother, but happy that you had a good connection and time was spent well. Those are great words here.
I finished reading Dark Water by Robert Bryndza a few weeks ago, it’s a crime novel but there is a quote in it that I copied because I like it so much and I wish to share it with you too:
If I should go tomorrow
It would never be goodbye
For I have left my heart with you
so don’t you ever cry
The love that’s deep within me
Shall reach you from the stars
You’ll feel it from the heavens
And it will heal the scars
Thank you for that quote. Amazing xoxo
Beautiful post. 🙂
Thank you Laurel, wishing you peace and love, a long and prosperous life xoxo
The sadness of loss does give way to the joy of memories. Thank you, David, for this lovely post.
You’re welcome John. Thank you for your comments.
🙂
-hugs-
Thank you xoxo
A truly inspiring way to handle the aging process.
Thank you