What makes a man think he knows what women should wear?
Practically every day this week I’ve read that this Indian politician or that Polynesian politician (always a man) say that women should cover up more to avoid being raped or sexually assaulted.
I’m a man and I think that the problem doesn’t lie with women but with men! We should be teaching our male offspring that women aren’t second class citizens, they are our equals and as such should be honoured and respected. If a woman goes out wearing only her underwear does this mean she is begging to be raped? No, it definitely doesn’t it only means that she is going somewhere that mode of dress is allowed.
We really need to educate our children that it is ok to wear whatever they want (as long as they maintain an air of decency and don’t wander out in public naked, unless they are naturists and the majority of people where they are follow the same principles).
If a man wants to wear a dress then who are we to say he can’t? I believe that even if a woman is naked she still has the right to be respected, treated with dignity and if she tells you to get lost then take the hint buster and do one. After all we have laws to protect everyone from harassment and we should all be prepared to do our bit to protect each other.
Similarly, if a woman is out walking with her friends, or alone, and sees someone she likes the look of then why shouldn’t she be the one to make the first move? I’ve had lots of relationships start with a woman giving me her number and asking me to call her. (I’ve never yet had a one night stand whether I’ve made the first move or not).
Ladies, if someone starts following you at night please think carefully before walking into a dark alley, stay where it’s lit and, if possible, try to alert someone to your predicament. I’ve walked people home because they would be going across a dark area or down a dark alley to ensure they would get home safely. I would hate to think I could have done something that easy for someone but didn’t and they ended up being raped or worse.
I don’t expect a good night kiss or sex for doing a good deed, after all I would hope someone would do the same for my baby girl if she was walking home late at night. The last time I did it I waited until the woman was safely indoors with the door closed before walking home myself. I wasn’t expecting anything apart from a thank you (which I did get).
thanks for telling us what men with brain believe! these cavemen should first check out what men wear before they point their fingers at women!
Instead of dictating to women, is that what you mean? I don’t think anyone (apart from a parent with a pre-teen child) should dictate to anyone what they should wear. It comes down to personal choice and men need an attitude adjustment where women are concerned.
I agree, and as you have said, it is high time that men should stop thinking that women dress up to provoke them or lure them! Honestly most women dress up to please themselves, pleasing others is just a bonus!
Exactly right, I believe that we all dress for ourselves, or should do anyway. We have to educate men to behave around women and not see signals that aren’t there.
These are terrible times Dave.
I know, but it’s not the fault of the victim, us men need to educate each other to respect everyone. We’re all unique, women and men, no two are alike. Women always have the right to say no, if they can’t speak then that has to be no as well.
Even if a woman is naked she isn’t a willing participant in sex unless she says she is. No ifs, no buts, no excuses, the woman has to agree to it or it’s rape, just the same as if she’s under age.
I wish everyone thought like you.
Wouldn’t life be simpler if everyone respected everyone else? I’d like to think so.
Nobody does that
Some of us try, isn’t that all we can do? Love and peace always Yas, to you and yours xoxo
Thank you Dave . God bless you and your wonderful family
Thank you Yas, may God always smile on you and your family and keep you safe
Times are changing and I hope we see more of your variety. There was a time when second class citizenship to the fairer sex (I detest every single word in that sentence) was the norm. But with time things are improving. Objectification of women has substantially reduced and women are slowly claiming their rightful place in the world. However, we need more men like you to hasten the process …
PS: Loved reading your blog post. Keep writing.
Thank you, why do some cultures blame women for being raped? I was reading the other day that a woman was raped in Turkey and she reported it to the police. Next thing she was arrested and had her passport withheld. I couldn’t believe that. The victim is charged and her 3 attackers will not stand trial, we need to fight against this for the sake of women everywhere.
I am not talking about any culture here. Women across cultures have suffered. But like I said, the times are changing … The fact that some of the most powerful countries in the world have women leaders … UK, France (La Marine in all probability shall win), Pratibha Patil (Former President of India), Germany (She is running for the 4th term), Hillary Clinton (She held herself against Trump and the recount of votes has begun) … 100 years ago we could never imagine such a scenario.
Times are changing and I am hopeful and optimistic about the future. We need men like you to treat women with equality and women need to stop calling themselves inferior.
The idea is to foster equality in complete sense of the word.
Lets hope we see better and progressive times in our lifetimes
I sincerely hope so, my wonderful friend. If only one change were made then I hope it’s the one where women can be seen as equals across the planet.
Amen!! Let’s hope our dreams see the light of the day